Monday Muse: This is rad

From here — awesome photographer.

This woman is beautiful. It is almost haunting, the idea that the older women we see and write off were exactly like us, if not more beautiful. It must be difficult to go from being a knockout to still being beautiful but no longer attracting every eye in the room.  

Monday Muse: I love you now.

Lately I have been thinking about what love really is.

I got into a conversation with a classmate, one with a four year old daughter. He said that the only real, true unconditional love is the love a parent has for their child. I argued that it isn't true of everyone, that there are those who grew up with indifferent, if not cruel parents. My final word was "Love is a fleeting emotion."

I dated someone who wouldn't believe that I loved him unless I wanted to get married as soon as possible. No matter how many times I told him that I loved him, that I was committed to him, he wanted us to get married. I told him that I wanted to wait until I finished my degree, but I would be more than willing to move in with him, to make it a serious long-term relationship.

He still wouldn't buy it, because I couldn't promise him forever.

The thing is, no one can promise forever. No one can look into someone else's eyes and say with complete assurance that they will feel the exact same way about them forever. People change, and feelings change.

I'm not saying that a couple can't be together, and happy, for decades. My parents have been together for nearly 25 years. They are happy. Is their relationship the exact same as it was in the beginning? No. They have had three kids, a miscarriage, and a couple of career changes. They have each lost a parent, there has been a cancer scare, and there has been weight lost and gained. Their love is a mature one, a comfortable one.

I just have this radical idea: love for the moment. Letting the current love be enough.

If he hadn't been so pushy about marriage, I would still be with him. I loved him. I still love him, in a way that I will always love him. He needed me to promise him something that no one can promise, and that destroyed our relationship.

This reminds me of a Lily Allen song — I Could Say. "I could say that I'll always be here for you, but that would be a lie... I could say that I'll always have feelings for you, but I've got a life ahead of me."

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Monday Muse

I am going to start posting a little something every Monday, something that inspires me, causes me to think or makes me happy. Nothing super major, and it may be a bit mainstream, but something that makes me feel. The occasional song, a cute quote, or a picture of my cats being stupid.

I recently heard this fantastic song on the radio. I was driving along a back road at night, and I was just going through my usual stations. I hadn't heard this song before, and I haven't heard it on the radio since. I came straight home and downloaded it though, so it doesn't matter. It is one of the few songs that I have on every device, and every playlist. I enjoy working out to it, and I enjoy driving home to it, waking up to it, etc. I have no idea why I have such affection for it, but I do.

The song is by Two Door Cinema Club, and is called "What You Know"

This is their website. and you can buy the single (or their whole album) from iTunes

I haven't heard a whole lot of their other music, but it is definitely something that I will be looking into. Check them out!